January is slipping past and my plans for the new year are still on track. Some of them have changed a bit, but the goals are still in my sites. I have time.
There are some things that haven’t happened because of circumstances. I haven’t had money to buy groceries yet this month and that gets hard. Still, I’m winning. How are you doing?
I joined a group for blog writers that offers support for making regular blog posts without a lot of pressure to perform. I might have already skipped a week or two if I weren’t using a group for accountability. If you are struggling with something that you want to do every day or every week, find yourself a group or an accountability partner. Even if you are just giving yourself stars on a chart, it is better than just remembering it and doing it.
Another thing I just started doing is making a list of the things I accomplish each day. Now there will be days with lots of accomplishments and days with only one or two, but I need to remind myself that even if I’m not doing everything I think I should be doing, I am getting a few things accomplished every day and most major accomplishments are really just a string of minor accomplishments that are taken together. You climb a mountain one step at a time. You don’t write a book, you write a word, and another word, until the book appears.
I decided that it is better to have a lot of colorful signs and posters around my workspace that make me feel good and encourage me to keep going that to have it look professional and neat, especially since “neat” is not a real possibility for me. If it can’t be perfect, it can still be pretty. Do you keep items in your space that make you smile and that remind you of your goals and your dreams? Have you added anything new lately?
If your partner is in a holiday episode or a post holiday episode, maybe you are feeling like all the work and will power and goals in the world won’t accomplish a thing because you are up against too much. I’ll admit, we are often swimming upstream when we have a bipolar partner and the stress of knowing that everything could be destroyed in a heart beat makes it harder to put in that effort. It’s easy to give up when we’ve done everything right and it still manages to go wrong.
But slipping into your own depression doesn’t do any good and there is a lot that you can do even while you’re waiting for things to calm down. You don’t need to change the world to have a worthwhile life. You just need to do whatever it is that you were born to do. One step at a time.
I’ve been talking about my new book (probably won’t be released until fall or winter) about making a living without having to depend on a traditional job. In that book I will be talking about taking small steps and meeting goals that will eventually put you into a job or into some form of self-employment that is designed around your interests and abilities. These are ideas that work for people with disabilities as well as for partners who are stressed with trying to support them.
If you can stay on task to do things you want to do for yourself and your family, you can stay on task to do things for other people and receive money for your efforts. If you pick things that you enjoy doing, you can often accomplish more than another person with more time and fewer roadblocks but who doesn’t want to be at that particular job. It does make a difference.
So even if you can’t accomplish everything you want as quickly and efficiently as you’d like, by staying with it, by keeping track of what you can accomplish and by refusing to give up, you can accomplish things that most people would assume are impossible, especially in your situation. Don’t let the fact that it’s impossible prevent you from achieving your goals.